Charlie has a lot of energy and it is especially hard to keep him occupied in the winter when we can't play outside. On this particular Saturday, I was thinking how great it would be if Ruby could run around in the basement with him. They could be buddies and entertain each other; they would have so much fun together. I am not sure why I let my mind think these things; there is no good in dreaming of what cannot be. Anyways, later in the day, Ruby was laying in her "box" batting at some toys, when Charlie brought his toy fishing pole to her. He first tried to give it to her so she could fish with him. When she didn't react at all, he then tried to put it in her hands. When that didn't work either, he just laid the fishing pole on her and I thought he would just give up trying to play with her. By this time, Mark and I both have tears in our eyes and we are feeling bummed that our 3 year old daughter can't grab a toy from her brother. What happened next though, unexpectedly warmed our hearts. Next, we watched Charlie set the fishing pole aside, get a blanket and lay in Ruby's box next to her; Ruby gave him big smiles for this. Instead of fishing, Charlie decided it would be better to play "nap" with Ruby. Ruby's inability to go fishing with him didn't seem to phase him at all and that blessed my heart.
I know as he grows, Charlie will have questions about Ruby's special needs. I am sure he will be frustrated by the attention we have to give her and maybe annoyed at our situation from time to time. But for now, I will cherish that fact that he loves Ruby just the way she is. I think Ruby and others with special needs will always have a special place in his heart.
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Thanks for sharing! This was so sweet, continuing to pray for you! I love that your kids love each other :)! Love you guys!
That is beautiful.
Charlie reminds me of a lesson I often need to remember.... I expect others to change for my needs when really I need to change for others.
to sweet! i am so glad to see Charlie's heart so full of love for Ruby. and i dont think that will change either. What a great lesson for us all to read.
love you guys.
Such a blessing :-) Thank you for sharing!
You will be amazed at how both of your neuro-typical children grow to understand and respect Ruby just as she is. They will be wise beyond their years and they will develop a level of compassion and tolerance that other children and even some adults can't comprehend. I am impressed and amazed daily by things Esen says and does for Marissa.
Now I am crying. However, you know that I do that a lot! I love you all so very much and I am praying that Charlie and Tabatha will grow to be sensitive to others and the special needs that they see around them. You are both great parents and the kids....well they are just wonderful!!
Love Always, Mom
Kelli, This brought tears to my eyes. I can feel your heart in this story and appreciate your willingness to share. God has given you an AMAZING heart and Ruby is incredibly blessed to have you for her mommy.
I don't even know how I got hooked on your blog...hmmm, I will need to think on that one. But meanwhile I will share that I love it and am so impressed with the love your family has. I grew up with a brother who had MD and it does make you differant from your friends. You have more tolerance of others and as my mom says "have a bleeding heart!!". Charlie and Tabatha will be made better because of their love for Ruby! Who knows...they may even adopt children with special needs when they are older. I did...we now have a 9 year old boy from China with dwarfism!!
Prayers for your family!
Liz
so so sweet. Love you guys and your beautiful kids. great story, thanks for sharing!
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